People look for hypnosis for every imaginable desire, for intimacy, for confidence, or for weight loss and even for breast enlargement and penile dysfunction. Everything under the sun.
With all due respect to hypnotherapists, I don’t think hypnosis can do all of that. Hypnosis as a tool or a mental process will help most with mental issues. Emotional disorders, phobias, to overcome shyness and be a better persuader (which is already a lot). Plus, hypnosis is becoming more and more popular for painless childbirth and surgeries. But, not to enlarge anything, at least not to a noticeable degree! The motto of mind over matter is often misunderstood in this context. To say the least, hypnosis is not a miracle for sale. If you have penile dysfunction due to some limiting belief or phobia, hypnosis will work. If the problem is organic, genetic… there are special fields for each problem, and even if the source problem is mental you have to embed other science fields in your techniques to Increase success rates.
To lose weight you have to burn calories or starve yourself, you can’t just sit idly on a couch and drop pounds. You can convince yourself to exercise more often through hypnosis or to stay motivated because of the placebo effect, but truly, fats don’t disappear because of suggestions but because of exercise. Physical exercise!
Let me tell you this, when I first started learning hypnosis I thought I could do anything with it. I would lie on my bed and send many positive affirmations, yet I kept achieving no results.
Hypnosis is not a magical solution to all of your problems. When I want to sell something, I use conversational hypnosis but mostly important I use proven marketing techniques. And you can tell that I’m right when you hear a hypnotherapist pitch and you don’t buy their material. Sure, they used all of the hypnosis techniques perfectly; however they still couldn’t convince you to buy. That’s a failure. When I want to make a girl fall for me, I don’t use magic spells, I use sophisticated techniques from social dynamics, neurology and other psychology disciplines to close the deal.
You can’t hit someone with a few fancy words and expect them to fall in love with you. People don’t want to feel fooled. They want to be enchanted, but they want also to feel secure and in complete control. Sure, you can get their attention but that only is a small step among other important ones. That is why most hypnotism and NLP based seduction books miserably fail, they want to convince you that by just doing some body language, playing hard and throwing some poetic pickup lines; you can get into their pants. I did that, and I got rejected with all possible scenarios.
How the subconscious really becomes programmed.
There is undeniable evidence that hypnosis changes how the brain operates. When hypnotized, a decrease in left-hemisphere activity occurs in favor of an increase in right-brain activity. However, Hypnosis is only one way among other ways to communicate with the unconscious mind. The technique that generates immediate results and proves itself again and again is taking serious actions.
Actions speak louder than hypnosis.
Your subconscious tries to protect you from harming yourself both physically and emotionally. The interesting fact is that most people are afraid to talk out loud in public more than they are afraid to die.
Reprogramming your mind through affirmations takes a lot of time until the affirmations settle in your subconscious and still it would be considered an obtrusive idea, your subconscious will collect information to validate it and there is no better validation than taking action. People reveal their true selves by the items they buy and the actions they subsequently take.
When someone claims something you often reply: prove it! Your subconscious mind wants to believe you so; prove it! When you take that risk and nothing bad happens, you prove to your unconscious that this is safe, when in fact, no it’s fun. I can do it again. And when your mind believes, your body responds. Your whole emotional state changes and confidence becomes natural and expressed on demand rather forcibly imposed. You can learn more from movement than you can from meditation.
Hypnosis can initiate the need for change and ignite the desire for the outcome but it’s the action that creates the difference.
What I want you to do is go for it, don’t hesitate, never procrastinate. Your subconscious will hold you back, prove it wrong and make it realize that you’re in control. By doing so, you are rewiring your program to work in your favor instead.
Failure is your best friend, and it’s a richer experience. It’s only feedback and you should always see it like that. Go to them, socialize, take risks, make mistakes, and if necessary, move on. The rewards are promising. Doing what others fear to do is what make people react to you, follow you blindly and be enchanted by you. Everyone is silently begging to be led. Become the master of the bold move; and you’ll get exactly what you want.